The Most Basic Relationship Dos and Don’ts

by Online Dating on November 9, 2010

It sounds crazy to say we need a check list of relationship do’s and don’ts, but communication has changed over the last several years. Technology has provided computers and cell phones that allow us to stay connected so much easier.

Of course, there are downsides to instant communication. Words can easily be misinterpreted because no emotion can be seen through texts or emails. If you’re uncertain about t what the other person is saying, there is no body language to read either.

Before instant communication, you had time to think through what you were going to say or do. Now, things are sent through emails or texts before you’ve had a chance to think through what you really want to say.

Because of the instant society you live in, what used to be common sense has been lost. The most basic principles of how to treat others is forgotten. Here are some basic relationship tips to keep your in check.

  • Be yourself and be honest. Don’t tell people what you think they want to hear because you’re physically attracted to them. The real you will eventually come out.
  • Don’t forget to talk to the person. Sit down and have a conversation with them in person versus sending electronic messages all the time. This is so important to build a strong foundation.
  • Find a person who has the same hobbies or social interests as you. It doesn’t matter if you both like to go camping or go see an opera, what’s important is that you have things to do together. Which ensures you’ll enjoy your time together.
  • Have patience. The right person isn’t going to be delivered to your door. It may take time to find the right person for you. Online dating is a faster way to get through the interview stage of dating. You know before your first date if your moral character is compatible.
  • Don’t base your relationship on looks alone. After awhile, looks won’t keep you happy. You need to have common interests and that doesn’t come from how a person looks.
  • Don’t discuss topics that are taboo or controversially until you have spent time really getting to know a person. That doesn’t mean you have to stick to small talk. You can have a conversation about areas you’re interested in or knowledgeable about.
  • Don’t throw away the chance for potential relationship before you spend any quality time with a person. Find out what personality traits are going to make you happy in a relationship. Decide if there are certain qualities that you absolutely can’t overlook in a person. Some qualities you thought were unacceptable may not be a deal breaker after all.

The bottom line is don’t jump into a relationship and give of yourself too soon. Give it time and get to know as much as you can about the person and see how they make you feel and how they treat you.

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