Sometimes, it may seem like college dates get old real fast as the one thing you both seem to have in common is that you’re probably broke, and after a few dinners and trips to the bars, there’s not much more to do. Hanging around is fine with your friends, but it is hard to start up an engaging relationship around food and alcohol only. It’s fun for you and your friends because you already know each other, but if you’re dating, you need fun activities to break the ice. Here are some ideas that may not have occurred to you without a little aid.
One great source of college dates if you’re both at least a little athletically inclined is to see what recreational activities your college offers. Swimming while you have that fresh spark between you can be a great time, and even if you’ve have been dating for awhile, it could be fun to have a new place to interact and fool around in the water. If your school has racquetball or tennis courts, they can also be fun places to work up a sweat. You can create your own rules depending on each of your athletic abilities and you will find conversation naturally occurs while playing because you have something in common to talk about right there. An added bonus is exercise releases endorphins and you’ll both be in a great mood after playing.
If sports are not your thing, or if your college doesn’t have a great recreational center, you may at least consider taking a nature walk. Ok, it sounds boring, but it doesn’t have to be — bring along snacks and a blanket! It gets you out of the house and sights will at least give you something to talk about. If you’re a little bit athletic, you could turn it into a bicycle ride.
Switching up gears a little, you may find inspiration in your activities from childhood. Try going to an art museum or the zoo for the afternoon. Both offer you a change of pace and scenery, and have plenty of built in conversation builders. What are your favorite pieces? What animal would you be? Even going to a school playground in the area may be fun as stories from your childhood are sure to come up — before long you could find yourself competing and showing off on the jungle gym or swings. Being a child is something you both share experiences from, so don’t be embarrassed go ahead and share them, believe it or not, you’ll have fun.
Definitely keep your eye out for festivals around campus and the town you live in. At some point, there are sure to be local festivals or activities that you can take part in that can shape a great date night. Take advantage of all of them so you keep your dating life fresh.
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From a small town to a big city, if you start to feel like you’re dating the same type of person, or that you’ve run out of eligible partners, it’s probably because you’ve gotten yourself into a routine and/or social circle that only holds so many prospects. Even if you feel like there is no one new to date or is worth a shot to date, you know that can’t be true — there are billions of people in the world. This is why many people have turned to online dating to find new potential dating matches.
There’s a certain thrill to meeting up with someone you have only been dating online, because people are more apt to open themselves up and let each other see their true colors online. When you’re dating online, you simply have to close a window to get out of a conversation, and know you will never have to hear from that person again, so you are more likely to take a risk, which often pays off.
Of course, it should be noted that the same way you let your guard down because you know the other person can’t see you, the other person knows you cannot see them as well. You’re definitely putting yourself at risk of being taken advantage of or even placing yourself into potential dangerous situation if you’re not protecting your privacy. It’s easy for someone to say they’re a well-mannered guy, but the truth is, you could be speaking to someone who doesn’t have the best of intentions. Don’t let this discourage you, though! But the point does need to be made. Always meet a potential date in a public place so you’re out in the open. Have a plan just in case things go south — there are nifty mobile apps out there that can help you get out of a disaster date.
Negativity aside, there are many stories of people who actually meet their matches online. How? Well, I believe it’s a combination of luck, timing, and work. Work? Yes! You should keep you profile fresh and reach out to possible matches as often as you can, sometimes it comes down to a numbers game, as bad as it sounds. Online dating gives you the ability to filter many people at once according to your preferences — imagine if you could do this in real life! If other methods are getting you down, perhaps you should consider jumping on an online dating site.
If thoughts of breaking have been racing through your mind lately, it means you may be dangerously close to getting sucked into a black hole you will not be able to escape from. Once that thought worms its way into you or your partner’s head, every action, fight, and small mistake will figuratively be added to the file of reasons why a break up should happen. Instead of thinking of ways to combat the problems you’re facing, you’re creating a strong case of why you should not even bother. If you catch yourself thinking that way, you should act right away to solve the problems in your relationship before you cross the point of no return.
If you’re still able to communicate, you need to sit down with your partner and express your feelings and tell them what you feel is causing problems in your relationship. Most issues exist because each party wrongly assumes they know what the other is thinking, and build their case from there. Communication goes both ways, so in order for you to effectively validate the problems in your relationship, you need to allow them the opportunity to express how they’re feeling as well. Showing them that despite your overwhelming feelings, you too can sit back and take the time to listen to their feelings will strengthen their faith and trust in you and help to build a stronger bond between the two of you.
After you have the talk, give one another some space. At this point, emotions are running high and some time should pass before you can objectively begin to address the problems that exist between you. Things will not get better overnight, but they will have the best chance if you reopen the lines of communication and allow some time for both points of view to register.
While your partner is taking some time to think about what you’ve said, show them why you should be together and why the relationship is worth working for. Remember the excitement you felt at the beginning of your relationship, when everything was new and wonderful. Relive that feeling by digging yourself out of the rut you have fallen into. Instead of a movie every Friday night, take part in new activities together to try and rediscover that thrill. Perhaps a weekend camping will reinvigorate your spark or, if you live by a lake or ocean, try waterskiing. Sharing new activities together is a great way to bond while working out the problems within the relationship. Give one other a reason to smile, and it will be much easier to connect and communicate effectively to head down the path of a happy, successful relationship.
It’s the perfect time to get to spring cleaning, so why not include your online dating profile? After a while, many things may become stale and out of date, so give yourself the best chance of finding a match! But, what to focus on? Here are a few suggestions on how you can spring clean your online dating profile into tip-top shape.
- Hobbies – Have you taken up any new hobbies? If you went to a ceramics class and discovered that you’re more arts and crafts rather than Michelangelo, that’s ok! Strut your stuff on your profile either way, your various hobbies make you more interesting!
- Profile Photos – How old is your profile photo? How stale are the rest of your photos? The basic rule of thumb is that your primary profile picture should be less than a year old. If it’s an old photo, especially if it doesn’t represent how you currently look, take a new photo. Need some inspiration? Head outside and take a few spring or summer themes photos to liven up your profile.
- Interests – You may have quite a few interests listed, so be sure to go over that section, too! Your favorite author may be listed as Shakespeare, but if you’ve just stumbled upon George R. R. Martin’s Game of Thrones series, and you’ve discovered a new love of the sci-fi genre, you may want to add that. People on online dating sites are looking for a connection, so show a bit of variety in your interests.
- Other – So, you know those fill-in-the-blank and multiple choice questions you completed — or didn’t complete — when you first signed up? Don’t forget about them! Something you chose a while back may not apply now. Did you quit drinking? Is any of your personal info out of date? Be sure to go through all of the sections in your profile to give it a nice, fresh update.
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There are definitely stereotypes when it comes to women and sports, but they’re being shattered every day by amazing female athletes and women who enjoy watching sports. But what do you do when you’d like to watch sports with your guy, but you’re so lost? Here are a few do’s and don’ts for watching sports with him.
- DO listen. If his team is going through a rough patch, let him vent. If they just scored massively, give him a high five! Just show him that you’re there to listen, even if it’s about poor play calls and you don’t quite follow. Don’t simply smile and nod, be sincere about it — this is important to him.
- DO have fun. I learned a lot about sports just by watching. I didn’t have a brother to teach me, and my dad wasn’t so interested, but I had guy friends that were more than willing to answer any questions I had. You can learn, too! Sit back and take it all in. If you watch enough, you can pick up on different plays and rules — impress your guy!
- DO watch it with him. Go for it! Sit down with him to watch the game, and he’ll enjoy the company. If you’re genuinely interested in the game, and learning more about the sport, he’ll appreciate that you’re connecting with him on one of his favorite things.
- DON’T interrupt him. During a heated part of the game, nothing annoys guys more than if you’re continually talking. It’s great to ask questions, but he’s probably super-focused on the action. He doesn’t want to miss that history-making move! If you have a question, definitely go for it — just wait for a commercial, time out, or other break in game action.
- DON’T take his mood to heart. On a final note, don’t take offense to a (possible) bad mood. So, if the team your guy is rooting for isn’t exactly doing well, he might be a little grumpy. Don’t take offense if he gets snappy if you ask a question just after a heated moment, or if screams at the TV. This stuff happens often, and is just another part of how he enjoys watching the game.