Just like your body, your relationships need careful maintenance if you want them to last and serve you well. Sometimes you don’t need much, a quick trim and wash to put that spring back into your step, but on the other hand, neglect will snap back at you. If you feel like your dating life is feeling a bit “blah,” here are a few tips to make it over.
Just like your body, sometimes your dating life needs a once-over for diagnosis. It’s easy to ignore the small problems and let ignorance be bliss, but it’s important to take stock of things. This step is personal, so look at things like your eating habits, exercise routine, financial situation, etc. If something is out of balance, examine everything to determine what you’ll need to do to get your life back into shape. Turn inward!
This part should be a bit more fun. Now that you’ve gone through your self-examination, it’s time to set some goals and imagine what you’d like your dating life to be. Take what you found in the first step, and imagine what you’d like to be instead.If your appearance was on the list, visualize the new you. Do you want to be a more outgoing person? Imagine yourself as the life of the party. Imagine your sparkly clean apartment, your ideal job — whatever it is that you feel will get you to where you want to be.
Now that you’ve gone through a self-examination, and you’re on the road to your new you, it’s time to set things in motion. Don’t stop after step two! Get busy — smash those old habits, say goodbye to destructive relationships holding you back, donate those things that aren’t part of your new self-image. Be ruthless until everything that stands between you and your vision is gone.
It’s time for things to finally pay off! Nothing is more satisfying than watching your vision come to fruition. You have a clean slate — who will you surround yourself with? What are your new goals? Go out there and live the dating life you’ve always dreamed of.
What does all of this have to do with dating? Well, you can’t expect someone else to care for you until you properly care for yourself.