The online dating world is, in some ways, a minefield. Sure, you can dance across that minefield, taking extra care to step softly, but sometimes you’re just going to set someone off. Rather than tiptoeing and avoiding anything you think might be harmful to your online dating life, it’s time to accentuate the positive. It’s time to take some specific steps to improve not only your online dating profile, but your overall strategies and techniques. This may seem like tips for beginners only, but it’s always good for a refresher.
- Look your best. This should go without saying! While you don’t need to have a professional picture taken for your profile, you do need to put your best foot forward. The same goes for photos elsewhere online. If you have a bunch of beer-swilling, beer-bellied pics on your Facebook page, eventually it’s going to work against you. The same goes for when you do set up an in-person date: Grooming is essential.
- Enjoy yourself. Don’t be a downer. Sure, trying to find the love of your life is a serious and scary thing, but the fact of the matter is that folks aren’t out there looking for someone who’s going to depress them. Have a good time with it. Dating is supposed to be fun!
- Be lavish with your praise. Make sure to drop compliments whenever appropriate. Don’t be so complimentary that it comes across as fake, of course. But if you do go out on a date, tell your date how nice he or she looks. Show that your appreciate all of the time and energy they spent getting ready.
- Be interested and interesting. Don’t just talk to hear your own voice. Have a real dialogue. Ask questions. Pay attention to the answers. Identify your own areas of interest and passion, and share them succinctly. If the other person is interested in them, they’ll ask you for more.
- Be honest about your feelings. If you’re not interested in someone, say so. You might want to be kind and not hurt their feelings, but in the long run you’re better off letting them go now rather than waiting.