How To Turn Someone Down Politely

by Online Dating on October 25, 2011

You’re at a bar and someone asks you out, but you’re not interested. What now? It can be just as tough turning someone down politely as it is asking someone out, so keep that in mind. Here are a few tips on how to turn someone down… politely.

Be Kind

Put yourself in their shoes for a moment — treat them with respect! Avoid speaking in a pitying tone of voice, using sarcasm, or rolling your eyes. I mean, unless this person did something crude and deserves some snark, lay off the haterade. You want to be straightforward, but not too blunt — it’s a fine balance.

Be Honest

It may be easy to let someone down by making up an excuse — you have a boyfriend or you’re too busy — but your body language and tone of voice will give you away. If you really do have a boyfriend or girlfriend, well by all means, let them know. Don’t be wishy-washy about how you say it because, again, people can sense dishonesty in your tone.

Be Clear

It’s best not to repeat yourself or apologize — this can drag things out. Get to the point, and you’ll have a better chance of not confusing the person you’re turning down. If you drag it out, they may believe that they have some chance to get with you still — we’re going for unambiguity here. Short concise responses like, “No, thank you,” work nicely. Although brevity is key here, remember to be kind.

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  • http://www.meetmania.net Jenia

    Dating is an exciting way of mingling
    and bonding with different people. But in the course, you cannot like
    everyone on the same scale. In cases, where you have to say a NO, its
    better to tell it frankly in a friendly manner, without offending the
    other person
     

  • http://www.meetmania.net Jenia

    Dating is an exciting way of mingling
    and bonding with different people. But in the course, you cannot like
    everyone on the same scale. In cases, where you have to say a NO, its
    better to tell it frankly in a friendly manner, without offending the
    other person
     

  • http://www.freerelationshipdating.com/ Dating Advice

    Good advice. It’s nice to read these tips because there’s a time wherein you would meet new people, ask you out, get your number… but unfortunately you cannot agree and agree all the time and really a no no when you already have a boyfriend.

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