You’re at a bar and someone asks you out, but you’re not interested. What now? It can be just as tough turning someone down politely as it is asking someone out, so keep that in mind. Here are a few tips on how to turn someone down… politely.
Put yourself in their shoes for a moment — treat them with respect! Avoid speaking in a pitying tone of voice, using sarcasm, or rolling your eyes. I mean, unless this person did something crude and deserves some snark, lay off the haterade. You want to be straightforward, but not too blunt — it’s a fine balance.
It may be easy to let someone down by making up an excuse — you have a boyfriend or you’re too busy — but your body language and tone of voice will give you away. If you really do have a boyfriend or girlfriend, well by all means, let them know. Don’t be wishy-washy about how you say it because, again, people can sense dishonesty in your tone.
It’s best not to repeat yourself or apologize — this can drag things out. Get to the point, and you’ll have a better chance of not confusing the person you’re turning down. If you drag it out, they may believe that they have some chance to get with you still — we’re going for unambiguity here. Short concise responses like, “No, thank you,” work nicely. Although brevity is key here, remember to be kind.