How To Talk To Men

by Online Dating on December 8, 2011

On a date, you need to get the attention of your guy and keep it! But men process information differently than women do, so many of us run into a situation where we end up talking too much. This can kill your chances at a second date. Here are a few tips on how to talk to men.

Be Brief and Specific

You have interesting stories to tell, but with guys it’s all about how you tell them. Men are just wired differently. When they hear something, they process it in a more linear fashion than women do. Lots of chatter could turn your new love interest off, so do yourself a favor and when you begin to talk about yourself, short, simple accounts do the trick.

Get His Attention

In general, men aren’t as successful at multitasking as women are, so you need to get his attention. Don’t compete with distractions — the tv, his games, the internet, his hobbies, whatever. If you really want to be heard, pull him away from the distractions and out of the house, maybe for a walk or go out to a restaurant.

It’s Not Like Talking To A Woman

Like we mentioned earlier, talking to guys is just… different than talking to women. If you feel like the conversation is lagging, take charge and manage it! We’re good at that. Many dates can take a turn for the worse when the conversation goes down the tubes, so steer it in the right direction. Be sure to talk about yourself, too. It might feel right to let him do the talking as to not be overbearing, but you won’t get a second date if he doesn’t learn a thing about you. As an exercise, think of five interesting things about yourself that you can bring up during date conversation.

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    I agree that men process information differently than women. Whether you’re a man or woman, you don’t want to stuck up in your date conversation so it’s better to know what topics are appropriate to open and how you would handle the talking.

  • yummielicious me

    i agree .. most of the men thinks opposite on what you really mean..

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