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Tips For Transitioning From Online To Offline

by Online Dating on August 24, 2011

It may be easy to be flirty online, but translating your online relationship to the offline world can be a challenge. Here are a few tips to help things go smoothly.

Be Real

Online dating is tough, so remember to keep things real the entire time. It’s easy to play up your features, but it’s better to downplay them, so your date has something to discover — and so they’re not subconsciously looking for flaws off the bat. It’s a good idea to give a disclaimer before you meet. For example, you may be super flirty online, but let your date know that you’re actually a shy person in real life. Let your personality shine!

Review Past Chat Logs

I’m not saying you have anything to hide — hopefully you’ve been honest! Going back to your chat logs will help to job your memory about the little details. Did you make a promise while getting flirty? Well, you can decide whether or not you’ll own up to it or skirt around it. Reviewing the logs will also help you with ideas to keep the conversation going once you do meet in person.

Be More Willing To Meet Casually

It’s always easier to chat with someone online, and when it comes time to meet in person there’s a lot of pressure. Alleviate some of that by being more willing to meet casually. Think, coffee, a light lunch, or some other no-pressure meeting. Many times, the person you’re meeting is very different from the one you got to know online, so things don’t always work out. It’s nice to have a casual meeting to determine whether or not you’d like to move forward in the relationship in real life, or simply keep chatting online.

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Although we cover a variety of online dating and relationship tips, there are times when a situation is too unique for an umbrella topic. Or maybe we just haven’t covered something yet! That’s why we’re going to do an Ask Online Dating U every once in a while. At Online Dating University, we’re here for you, so send us your questions!

I’m 20 years old, she is 18, and we have known each other for almost ten years now. We’ve been dating happily for a few months and everything is perfect. I had to go to Germany for about 10 months for my job, but we talk every single day and everything feels fine. I’ll be going back home in December to spend a few weeks with my girlfriend, but I’ll have to leave again until mid-2012 — then I’ll be home for good.

She recently told me she wants to take a break, that she can’t stand not having me around and thinks it would be easier on her to ‘take a break’ until I come home. She said she won’t sleep with other guys or anything else like that. She says she still loves me more then anything and doesn’t want to lose me, that I’m the best boyfriend she has ever had and will ever have, and that we can still talk every day and grow together, etc.

I honestly don’t understand why we need to take a break, maybe I’m missing something? Even if we do officially ‘take a break’ I’m still going to be gone for a long time and to me, taking a break isn’t going to accomplish anything. Please help me understand this. Should I go along with it? I know it’s something she really wants, but it’s not something I’m interested in doing. She told me that I ‘just don’t get it’.

The Truth About Breaks

Let’s be honest here, breaks usually mean one thing: A free pass.

It doesn’t make any sense that she’d want to “take a break,” yet maintain communication and keep everything else the same. I get the impression that she wants to cover her ass, so she can feel free to find something better. She has every right to look for something better, but she shouldn’t string you along on the side — and you shouldn’t let her. Although she’s young, you’ve known one another for over ten years, and she may feel like she can come back to you whenever she wants.

If she doesn’t think that you’re her best deal, then she isn’t right for you.

In this situation, the strain of your long distance relationship could be getting to her, and perhaps this is just her way of handling it. Just be wary. Reassure her that you want to be with her, and only her — and let her know that you don’t feel comfortable with taking a break. Maybe work in some spice with video Skype calls and write letters to show that you care.

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11th Edition of the Carnival of Online Dating

by Online Dating on August 17, 2011

Carnival of Online Dating

Welcome to the August 17, 2011 edition of the Carnival of Online Dating! This is the eleventh edition of the blog carnival, and we really appreciate those who have submitted their links for inclusion. Spread the word: The next Carnival of Online Dating will be September 7, 2011, so make sure to get your submissions in by 8:59pm PST/11:59pm EST Tuesday September 6th.

Dating Tips & Advice

Personal Anecdotes

Reviews

Be sure to tune in every 1st and 3rd Wednesdays for more! The next Carnival of Online Dating will be September 7th, 2011, so make sure to get your submissions in by 8:59pm PST/11:59pm EST Tuesday September 6th!

That concludes this edition. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.