Dating Tips

I’m so excited to kick off the first of a series! What to wear is often a stressful point for both men and women; my hope is to help ease the pain when choosing the perfect outfit. Let’s dive right in to a few tips for what to wear as a woman on a first date.

Dressing sexy doesn’t always mean dressing seductively

I’m going to get this one out of the way right now. Don’t dress sleazy! You’ll be treated like it. You can ooze sex by looking confident and expressing your personal style.

When it comes to showing skin, it’s a little like Goldilocks: Don’t show too much, or too little, but just the right amount. Researchers at the University of Leeds discovered that those who expose 40% skin are most attractive to guys. Wearing something a little low-cut? Put away the mini-skirt, and vice-versa. It’s all about balance.

Two good examples of sexy, understated outfits perfect for a first date:


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6 Fundamental First Date Tips

by Kristin Marshall on February 5, 2011

No matter where you meet, going on — and sometimes even thinking about — that first date can be nerve-racking. Here are 6 essential first date tips that will get things off to a great start.

It’s all about location

  • The key here is for both of you is to be comfortable! Men and women like different things, but it’s easy to find a common ground — concerts, sporting events and comedy clubs are great places to start.
  • Think simple. A first date that’s complicated or multi-part leaves room for too many things to go wrong!
  • Get back to your younger roots. Activities like rollerskating, iceskating, go-karting, bowling and miniature golf are fun and help to break the ice.
  • Check out these 10 great first date ideas.

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There are those women who love money above all else. Instead of working hard to earn their own way, they look for a free ride — fueled, of course, by your heard-earned cash. She will only buy the very best, and will burn through your energy and your pocket.

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Getting up the courage to ask out a complete stranger is hard enough without you making the mistake of doing it at one of these places. Do yourself a favor and take 5 minutes to think about context before you make your move. Oh, and memorize this handy guide.

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Online Dating at Work

by Kristin Marshall on November 11, 2010

One of the first things you do when you’re a new employee is sit down and go over the rules. Some employers have 100 page manuals while others just have a few standard rules that aren’t written in manuals. These are such basic rules everyone should know them.

If you don’t know the basic rules, it isn’t because you live under a rock. Perhaps this is your first job, or you haven’t worked for anyone besides your crazy Aunt Betty. You may have gotten paid well, but let’s be honest cutting grass and running errands for crazy Betty didn’t give you much experience in the workforce.

Depending on where you work, the amount of workplace rules will vary. But there are some standard rules that every employer expects. These are the most basic policies that you should always know before you start working anywhere.

  • No sleeping while at work. If you are too tired or sick don’t go to work and try to make it through the day. Stay home and recuperate.
  • Don’t use computers at work for personal use. Your employer has this equipment for work use only. If you want to use a computer to play around or socialize, buy a computer to use at home.
  • No dating co-workers or supervisors. If you are seeking a mate, work is not the place to do it. Allow co-workers to set you up with one of their friends or use online dating if you are having trouble finding a mate
  • Follow your scheduled hours. You don’t get to pick and choose when you feel like working. They have your schedule hours based on what the employer needs.
  • Follow the dress code your employer has set. Professional dress earns more respect. If this is the first time you have to dress professionally, chances are you aren’t going to have the right clothing. A great place to shop is second hand stores or your local Salvation Army for deals to start building your professional wardrobe.
  • Alcohol or drugs are strictly off limits during work. Having lunch meetings doesn’t excuse this behavior either. At no time is drinking or drugs allowed in any work environment!
  • Stealing from your employer is absolutely forbidden. Just because you work there, you don’t’ have the right to take what is not yours. If you need to borrow a piece of equipment, ask your employer for permission. You should put this in writing so you have a record of it. A simple email or note is all that is needed.

Just remember when you start a new job, the policies and rules aren’t there to intimidate you. They are really there to allow you and your employer to have a respectful affiliation which will allow everyone to get the job done.

It sounds crazy to say we need a check list of relationship do’s and don’ts, but communication has changed over the last several years. Technology has provided computers and cell phones that allow us to stay connected so much easier.

Of course, there are downsides to instant communication. Words can easily be misinterpreted because no emotion can be seen through texts or emails. If you’re uncertain about t what the other person is saying, there is no body language to read either.

Before instant communication, you had time to think through what you were going to say or do. Now, things are sent through emails or texts before you’ve had a chance to think through what you really want to say.

Because of the instant society you live in, what used to be common sense has been lost. The most basic principles of how to treat others is forgotten. Here are some basic relationship tips to keep your in check.

  • Be yourself and be honest. Don’t tell people what you think they want to hear because you’re physically attracted to them. The real you will eventually come out.
  • Don’t forget to talk to the person. Sit down and have a conversation with them in person versus sending electronic messages all the time. This is so important to build a strong foundation.
  • Find a person who has the same hobbies or social interests as you. It doesn’t matter if you both like to go camping or go see an opera, what’s important is that you have things to do together. Which ensures you’ll enjoy your time together.
  • Have patience. The right person isn’t going to be delivered to your door. It may take time to find the right person for you. Online dating is a faster way to get through the interview stage of dating. You know before your first date if your moral character is compatible.
  • Don’t base your relationship on looks alone. After awhile, looks won’t keep you happy. You need to have common interests and that doesn’t come from how a person looks.
  • Don’t discuss topics that are taboo or controversially until you have spent time really getting to know a person. That doesn’t mean you have to stick to small talk. You can have a conversation about areas you’re interested in or knowledgeable about.
  • Don’t throw away the chance for potential relationship before you spend any quality time with a person. Find out what personality traits are going to make you happy in a relationship. Decide if there are certain qualities that you absolutely can’t overlook in a person. Some qualities you thought were unacceptable may not be a deal breaker after all.

The bottom line is don’t jump into a relationship and give of yourself too soon. Give it time and get to know as much as you can about the person and see how they make you feel and how they treat you.

“Finding your soul mate” is a cliché that is often overused, especially in the online dating world. People just want to find a deeply committed loving mate who is also their most trusted friend. They also want to be in a long lasting relationship with that person.

For some, finding a soul mate may be easy, but it isn’t for everyone. Here are some quick tips on finding a soul mate.

  • Know what characteristics you are looking for in your soul mate. Decide what characteristics are really important to you. Know what qualities are going to make you happy. Is it a problem if your potential mate doesn’t cook? Or is that a trivial problem that you can over look?
  • Believe in the soul mate idea. There is a perfect person out there for everyone. Understand that true love exists you just haven’t found it. Maybe you already know the person. That person might be right in front of you, but you don’t know it because you don’t believe in the idea of a true soul mate.
  • Clear your life of the immature drama that surrounds people. Are you too needy or demanding? These are immature personality flaws that cause drama and don’t allow for a respectful relationship. There is no room for immaturity in a true love connection.
  • Allow yourself to date. Date a variety of people so you know who is out there. Dating is a great way to get to know people and that takes some time. In reality most people don’t meet the love of their life on the first try. That is saved for the movies.
  • Learn from your past mistakes. If you dated Mr. or Ms. Wrong, figure out what were the problems in the relationship. If you need to fix something about yourself, fix it and get on with your life. Dwelling on past relationships is better left for those still in high school
  • Try different approaches to dating. Don’t be close minded about where you’ll find your perfect mate. Let your friends set you up on the blind date they have been wanting to. Go to singles events in your area and you will see you’re not alone in the quest for a soul mate. Use online dating services. These sites allow you to list your most personal feelings and beliefs, which when compatible are the foundation of a strong relationship.
  • Have faith. Believe that you’re going to find your soul mate. You need to have the “never give up” attitude. Once your mind is open to the idea of true love, your heart will follow.

We live in an age of computers, cell phones and the wireless network of knowledge. The world in essence is at our finger tips and we have unlimited information in front of our eyes. The Computer age has changed everything and to some most importantly, how we find dates; potential “loves of our lives” or just a casual meeting to hang out and have someone to take in a movie or grab a bite to eat. We are now able to freely express ourselves on non-pay social networking sites all the way to those that have paid memberships to join their online dating community. On top of the online dating avenues there are escort services available if that is in an interest. The following articles are guidelines on the multifaceted world of the online dating game. The goal is that you will find these informative and more importantly useful if looking for a significant other, or just someone to spend a little time with.

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How to Flirt

by Kristin Marshall on November 4, 2010

Flirting is just as much a science as it is an art. When you flirt, you’re conveying intentions with your body (or in some cases, your words.) We’ll assume that you’ve made it past those crucial initial steps of online dating, and now you’re meeting someone out in the real world. If it’s time to really make an impression, it’s probably time to start flirting.

Flirting isn’t always intuitive, and it sometimes takes practice. Here are some of the methods you can use to flirt, and let that special someone know that you’re interested:

  • Flirt with your eyes. Getting and holding eye contact with someone is a time-honored flirting method. It’s also considered to be especially perspective. Simply locking eyes with that special person can be a great signal. Don’t be too disappointed if that first long stare misses, however. It usually takes three consecutive eye locks for the recipient to get it.
  • Flirt by grooming. For girls, stroking your hair, exposing your neck or licking your lips all bring attention to your attractiveness. For men, straightening yoru clothing or fixing your hair works, as does hooking your finger into your pants or sucking in your stomach.
  • Flirt by smiling. Don’t underestimate the sheer power of the smile. Use it along with other body language, however, or you might run the risk of seeming unintentionally amused, rather than flirtatious.
  • Flirt by aiming. Aim your body at the intended target. Point your feet in their direction, and lean your shoulders in toward them. Just don’t be too imposing or intimidating with this one.
  • Flirt by touching. Accidentally touching (not accidentally groping) is a great flirtatious technique. Even shaking hands can be. Casually placing your hand on the recipient’s arm as you walk by is another great way to use touch to flirt.
  • Flirt by imitating. In some cases, simply mirroring the other person’s movements may give the message of flirting, because it subconsciously reinforces their own actions. In some cases, however, this may actually backfire and make the person self-conscious, so be sure to watch how they react to the imitation. If they seem uncomfortable, stop.

Dating online has become one of the top ways to meet people. Many are choosing this as a way to meet their future someone because of the busy lives they lead. Meeting someone online can be very scary to begin with. Learn how to flirt with them online. You can’t use all your normal flirting tactics you might use in the beginning stages because of the online nature. Get tips and hints on how to flirt even through the internet. Learn some great ideas on first dates, ways to flirt and how to catch the eye of someone you want to get to know.

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