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How To Test Your Compatibility On A Date

by Online Dating on August 29, 2011

When dating someone new, it can be a challenge to determine whether or not you’re compatible. Here are a few things you can do to test the waters, but we recommend that you wait to use these tactics after a few dates.

Play a game

Play ping pong, pool, darts, or console games with your date — any kind of social game will work. The point here is to see how your date reacts to competitive circumstances. Do they try to win at all costs? Is he/she a sore loser? If your date is helpful or rooting for you to win, this is a good sign. The way they play the game may be similar to the way they handle a disagreement.

Spend the day together

Instead of the two-hour date, spend a full day with your date. Go to the beach, a day spa, a day of shopping or exploring — anything that spans at least two meals together. You’ll be able to see how your date handles everyday life and how they interact with other people. It’s much easier to test your compatibility with someone over the course of a day (or several) than only a couple hours.

Run an errand

After the third date or so, take your date on a small errand run before you go out. Something simple like picking up a few items at the grocery store or picking up your dry cleaning — nothing that takes longer than 20 minutes. These are things you do in your everyday life, anyway! Tell your date beforehand that you just need to run a quick errand and pay attention to how they handle it. Do they go along with you like nothing’s changed? Do they help you out with whatever it is you’re doing? Do they act a bit peeved and impatient?

Get away from the hustle

Get to really know your date away from the hustle and bustle of the everyday. You’ll be able to chat with your date without all the drinks, craziness, and if you feel awkward or can’t find much to talk about, it may be time to rethink things.

Go on a small trip

Traveling reveals a lot about a person, so take your date on a small trip. It can be a drive across town, or a boat ride — anything to see how your date functions during these activities. If they’re driving, pay attention to how they handle traffic, directions, and aggressive drivers. If you’re driving, pay attention to how they react to you being in control.

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It may be easy to be flirty online, but translating your online relationship to the offline world can be a challenge. Here are a few tips to help things go smoothly.

Be Real

Online dating is tough, so remember to keep things real the entire time. It’s easy to play up your features, but it’s better to downplay them, so your date has something to discover — and so they’re not subconsciously looking for flaws off the bat. It’s a good idea to give a disclaimer before you meet. For example, you may be super flirty online, but let your date know that you’re actually a shy person in real life. Let your personality shine!

Review Past Chat Logs

I’m not saying you have anything to hide — hopefully you’ve been honest! Going back to your chat logs will help to job your memory about the little details. Did you make a promise while getting flirty? Well, you can decide whether or not you’ll own up to it or skirt around it. Reviewing the logs will also help you with ideas to keep the conversation going once you do meet in person.

Be More Willing To Meet Casually

It’s always easier to chat with someone online, and when it comes time to meet in person there’s a lot of pressure. Alleviate some of that by being more willing to meet casually. Think, coffee, a light lunch, or some other no-pressure meeting. Many times, the person you’re meeting is very different from the one you got to know online, so things don’t always work out. It’s nice to have a casual meeting to determine whether or not you’d like to move forward in the relationship in real life, or simply keep chatting online.

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by Hayley Quinn on August 23, 2011

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