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5 Assumptions That Destroy Your Dating Life

by Online Dating on September 8, 2011

We all know what happens when we make assumptions. Despite everything, people still make so many assumptions when it comes to sexuality and dating. It’s sometimes safe to make assumptions from time to time, but don’t kill your relationship before it even begins — here are 5 common assumptions that can destroy your dating life.

It’s all about looks

Don’t get me wrong: Looking good is important, and taking care of yourself is important. But taking only looks into consideration when dating is the wrong way to go about things. Go deeper and discover your date’s passions and personality by listening and having engaging conversation.

Women can’t initiate contact

Many women back down from initiating contact or tone back the flirting because they’re afraid of being seen as pushy or worse. Thing is, these days it’s more of the norm for women to ask men out. In fact, that confidence is sexy.

“I can’t disagree with my date.”

You don’t want to continuously argue with your date, but agreeing to disagree is just fine! Agreeing with everything your date says is boring, and it’ll seem like you don’t have your own identity. It’s fine to have much in common with your date, but remember to let your personality shine through.

“I know the type.”

It’s easy to put people into boxes, because it’s just easier that way. It’s easy to say, “I know the type,” and assume they’ll act a certain way. You might even assume how things would end up. Don’t! It’s important to go beyond the book’s cover to discover what the person is all about.

The same goes for assuming things about someone based on how they dress. Someone might assume a woman wearing a large purse and heels is high maintenance, or that a guy wearing baggy jeans is a slacker. Again, go beyond what’s on the surface to what really matters.

“I’ve got to put out.”

This is a biggie. Many people assume that you have to put out right away, and in fact, many men these days are feeling pressure from women for sex, too. If you’re looking to have more than a one-night stand, hold out and respect yourself and your date. Get to know the person a bit before jumping into bed. There are other intimate activities you can partake in that aren’t intercourse. Go with what you’re comfortable with — everyone is different. Don’t just do something because it’s “expected.”

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Carnival of Online Dating

Welcome to the September 7, 2011 edition of the Carnival of Online Dating! This is the twelfth edition of the blog carnival, and we really appreciate those who have submitted their links for inclusion. Spread the word: The next Carnival of Online Dating will be September 21, 2011, so make sure to get your submissions in by 8:59pm PST/11:59pm EST Tuesday September 20th.

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Be sure to tune in every 1st and 3rd Wednesdays for more! The next Carnival of Online Dating will be September 21st, 2011, so make sure to get your submissions in by 8:59pm PST/11:59pm EST Tuesday September 20th!

That concludes this edition. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.

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by Hayley Quinn on September 1, 2011

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