Advice

“Finding your soul mate” is a cliché that is often overused, especially in the online dating world. People just want to find a deeply committed loving mate who is also their most trusted friend. They also want to be in a long lasting relationship with that person.

For some, finding a soul mate may be easy, but it isn’t for everyone. Here are some things to remember when searching for your soul mate.

  • Know what characteristics you are looking for in your soul mate. Decide what characteristics are really important to you. Know what qualities are going to make you happy. Is it a problem if your potential mate doesn’t cook? Or is that a trivial problem that you can over look?
  • Believe in the soul mate idea. There is a perfect person out there for everyone. Understand that true love exists you just haven’t found it. Maybe you already know the person. That person might be right in front of you, but you don’t know it because you don’t believe in the idea of a true soul mate.
  • Clear your life of the immature drama that surrounds people. Are you too needy or demanding? These are immature personality flaws that cause drama and don’t allow for a respectful relationship. There is no room for immaturity in a true love connection.
  • Allow yourself to date. Date a variety of people so you know who is out there. Dating is a great way to get to know people and that takes some time. In reality most people don’t meet the love of their life on the first try. That is saved for the movies.
  • Learn from your past mistakes. If you dated Mr. or Ms. Wrong, figure out what were the problems in the relationship. If you need to fix something about yourself, fix it and get on with your life. Dwelling on past relationships is better left for those still in high school
  • Try different approaches to dating. Don’t be close minded about where you’ll find your perfect mate. Let your friends set you up on the blind date they have been wanting to. Go to singles events in your area and you will see you’re not alone in the quest for a soul mate. Use online dating services. These sites allow you to list your most personal feelings and beliefs, which when compatible are the foundation of a strong relationship.
  • Have faith. Believe that you’re going to find your soul mate. You need to have the “never give up” attitude. Once your mind is open to the idea of true love, your heart will follow.

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28th Edition of the Carnival of Online Dating

by Online Dating on May 9, 2012

Carnival of Online Dating Welcome to the May 9, 2012 edition of the Carnival of Online Dating! This is the twenty-eighth edition of the blog carnival, and we really appreciate those who have submitted their links for inclusion. Spread the word: The next Carnival of Online Dating will be May 23, 2012, so make sure to get your submissions in by then. It will also be our last Carnival of Online Dating, so let’s go out with a bang!

Dating Tips & Advice

Personal Anecdotes

Sex and Seduction

Be sure to tune in for our final carnival! It will be May 23rd, 2012, so make sure to get your submissions in by then!

That concludes this edition. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.

We’ve given you great first date ideas, essential first date tips, and even tips for first date conversation, but even after reading up, what if your first date isn’t going as planned? Anything could happen on a first date, but here are four signs your first date should be your last.

  • They checked someone else out. – Did she stare when that hot guy walked by? Did you see your date checking out that short skirt? There is a difference between people watching and ogling, so be sure it’s the latter before you write your date off. Ogling others while on a date is not acceptable. I mean, unless they’re checking you out! Your date should be respecting you.
  • They’re rude to the waitstaff. – If your date is rude to the waitstaff, cab driver, bartender or anyone else that serves you while on the date, consider this date the last. Now, there are exceptions when employees are snappy or rude first-off, but even then, how your date reacts will show their true colors. If your date is rude for no reason, well then, you’ve got a problem. Even if your waiter put in an incorrect order, or if the bar service is slow, there’s no need for insults or disrespect. Just think: If your date is rude to others, it’s fair to assume that they’ll do the same to you at some point.
  • They get drunk. – Many first dates include a few drinks — a glass of wine with dinner, or a few cocktails post-dancing. But, if your date ends up noticeably tipsy, even drunk, that’s a red flag. There’s an underlying problem, whether your date just doesn’t know his or her limits, or whatever the reason, watch out. Sometimes folks can get carried away, so try to limit yourself to 2 drinks and keep an eye out for your date’s intake. Also, keep a designated driver in mind. If they’re your ride home, and they’ve been drinking, call a cab!
  • You’re bored. – Alright, so you probably already knew this one, but hey, we’ve got to say it! If making conversation feels like pulling teeth, then it’s probably best that you make this your first and last date. Do your best to engage with your date — give him or her the benefit of the doubt! First dates can be nerve-racking for sure, but ride it out.

Online Dating Don’ts

by Online Dating on April 30, 2012

When to comes to the online dating world, there are plenty of disasters waiting to happen. Although some of them are unavoidable, there are many things you can do to prevent a disastrous outcome. As you go through the process of building your online dating profile and communicating with possible matches — following up on our online dating do’s — keep in mind these online dating don’ts:

  • Don’t seem desperate, even if you are. If you’re newly in contact with someone, don’t call, text or email him or her more than once a day -– unless they reply. Sure, you may feel like you’ve struck gold and are falling head-over-heels in love, but unless they’re reciprocating in some way, you need to cool those heels. Otherwise, you’ll come across as instable and desperate, and you may end the relationship before it even gets started.
  • Don’t lie. We get it. Most folks add an inch to their height, or drop a couple of pounds from their weight. We’re not talking about embellishing small details. But if you suddenly declare that you’re 5’11” at 135 pounds but you really stand at 5’5” and weigh 210, you’re going to have a problem as soon as that online dating romance takes a real-world turn.
  • Don’t look for the same kind of person who has hurt you in the past. Some of us are attracted to bad boys or to drama queens, but usually those things don’t work out so well. You need to break your pattern of picking potential lovers who are bad for you, and instead try to find healthy relationships.
  • Don’t give it all away right away. We’re not talking about sex, here. Especially with online dating, that should come down the road. We’re talking more about exposing your deepest, darkest secrets. Yes, in the long run you want to meet someone who loves you for who you are, and who accepts your faults. However, you don’t want to advertise those faults. Let the person discover them, one at a time, rather than dumping them all at once.
  • Don’t be rude. An obvious one, but we have to say it! If you do manage to land an in-person date, be on time. Don’t be rude, and don’t get drunk — two drinks is a good rule of thumb. Don’t check out other women (or other guys). Use your best manners, and just be courteous.

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27th Edition of the Carnival of Online Dating

by Online Dating on April 25, 2012

Carnival of Online Dating Welcome to the April 25, 2012 edition of the Carnival of Online Dating! This is the twenty-seventh edition of the blog carnival, and we really appreciate those who have submitted their links for inclusion. Spread the word: The next Carnival of Online Dating will be May 9, 2012, so make sure to get your submissions in by 8:59pm PST/11:59pm EST Tuesday May 8.

Dating Tips & Advice

Personal Anecdotes

Sex & Seduction

Be sure to tune in every 1st and 3rd Wednesdays for more! The next Carnival of Online Dating will be May 9th, 2012, so make sure to get your submissions in by 8:59pm PST/11:59pm EST Tuesday May 8th!

That concludes this edition. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.

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