Although we cover a variety of online dating and relationship tips, there are times when a situation is too unique for an umbrella topic. Or maybe we just haven’t covered something yet! That’s why we’re going to do an Ask Online Dating U every once in a while. At Online Dating University, we’re here for you, so send us your questions!
In the past I deleted my online dating profile after meeting someone great. It didn’t work out, so I made a new account.
I’m currently in a 4-month long relationship with a man I met online. We haven’t spoken about what to do with our accounts. I don’t think he will suggest deleting them — he still goes online. I can go either way.
My question to you is, at what point would you delete your profile? Do you think people can use dating sites to find platonic relationships?
When to delete your online dating profile once in a relationship is a very common concern. I’d say, once you’re exclusive, go ahead and delete it. The best situation? If you can disable it instead. Many sites offer the option to disable your profile so you don’t lose all the time you put into it. Especially in the case of a site with extensive quizzing and such.
If the site doesn’t offer a disabling option, see if there’s an option to change your status to, “in a relationship” or “not single.”
The important thing is to talk to your partner about it! Since the two of you met through an online dating site, he should understand where you’re coming from. What I want to know is: Why does he still go to the site? I mean, you guys have been together for 4 months, so I’d hope he’s still not shopping around. Definitely talk to him about this. If he’s not as serious as you are about being exclusive, you should reconsider your relationship with him.
As for using dating sites to find platonic relationships, well, I’m not so sure. They are called dating sites for a reason. On sites like OkCupid, I think it could be possible to make platonic relationships, only because the nature of the site allows people to take quizzes, have fun, and really make the experience whatever you want it to be. In you situation, I don’t know what site he’s using, but every site has it’s own feel. I guess on any website you could cultivate platonic relationships, but there is already so much pretense it seems a little… dishonest. In the end, you need to talk to him.
