If you have been sitting in your PJ’s for the last week, scraping the bottom of a gallon tub of ice cream, cradling your phone like it will never ring again, and wondering around with a blank look on your face, chances are you just got broken 
up with or dumped, and the world as you know it has ceased to exist. Believe it or not though, life is going to go on rather you leave the bed or not, and you eventually have to go on with it. A nice thought that might motivate you to move again, is that hardly anybody is going to find the right person right away, so this breakup is one more down until you do find that person, but if the breakup came suddenly, you probably still think this was the one.
That is a discussion that you will have to have with yourself, in deciding rather to try to get your ex back or not, but this can be saved for a later date because in the state you are currently in, you couldn’t get them back anyhow. Whether you want to reconcile or not, the only choice you really have is to start moving on for a little while anyway. So for now, you have to start to figure out how to live your life again.
Think back to before the breakup, and what did you used to do for fun when you didn’t have to count him or her in for your weekend plans. Even if it is as simple as calling up your single friends and going out for dinner, it’s a step towards getting you back on your feet. You had a life before you got into your relationship and you have to find your life after you get back out. This is a time period for you to redefine who you are and get the enjoyment you had out of life before you had to compromise. If you start to look at your breakup as an opportunity it will start to be easier to move on and work through the pain.
While starting out new, maybe consider going to the gym or getting a new haircut. Buy some new clothes for yourself, things that make you feel pretty that you stopped wearing while you were in a relationship. Spice yourself back up and start to replace your self-doubt with self-confidence. This is one step you can’t afford to miss out on. As it is a step that will help you get through and survive your breakup more than anything else you do.
Finally, after you have enough time and distance from the breakup, you need to look back on the relationship and really evaluate it. Even if it feels like it, breakups do not come from thin air. Once you can fully pinpoint why it happened, you can finally find closure and shut the door on it, which will allow you to finally heal and move on with your life, and even begin dating again.
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