Nobody wants to experience a breakup. Breakups are about one of the most emotional painful experiences that humans willingly put themselves through repeatedly in the search to find the perfect one. If you believe the relationship you are in is headed for breakup, but that there is still a lot there worth fighting for, do yourself a favor and look for the solutions now instead of later.

One thing you should start by doing is look at the relationship and determine why it is unsuccessful now and who holds the most power in it. If the power balance is slanted that could be one reason why the relationship is not working out. If one party is always deciding what the couple will do the other party is bound to feel devalued and unhappy leading to their constantly negative attitude which in turn rubs off on the other partner and then every issue small or large, will become a 24/7 fight. By speaking up more about what you want in a relationship your partner will respect and value you more and you will feel more fulfilled by the relationship. Starting small by voicing a strong opinion about where you eat or what movie you see is a great beginning. In more serious cases, seeing a therapist may be needed if the power struggle has been slanted for years, it is up to you to decide if the relationship is worth that amount or effort or not.

If you are the one who tends to hold the power in the relationship and your partner is the quiet one who prefers to ignore the underlying reasons why both parties are unhappy, it may be up to you to ask the tough questions. It may be hard, but you have to find out what is wrong with a relationship before you can fix it. You would never attempt to fix a broken appliance if you didn’t know what was causing the problem would you? No, because you would have no idea where to start. Therefore, how can you expect to fix a relationship without gaining an understanding of the other person’s needs, feelings, and the big one, if there really is love in the relationship worth fighting for.

If you decide that the relationship is worth saving, than the one thing you have to follow though with, is exactly that, follow through. It is not going to be enough to act one the above suggestions for a day or two or a week. If there are serious flaws within your relationship than they are going to take time to iron out. Problems such as a lack of communication and an uneven balance of power and happiness in a relationship do not develop in a week’s worth of time, and they will disappear in that span of time either. If you decide a relationship is worth trying to save than you have to be willing to continually to put your time and effort to successfully do so.