6 Fundamental First Date Tips

by Online Dating on February 5, 2011

No matter where you meet, going on — and sometimes even thinking about — that first date can be nerve-racking. Here are 6 essential first date tips that will get things off to a great start.

It’s all about location

  • The key here is for both of you is to be comfortable! Men and women like different things, but it’s easy to find a common ground — concerts, sporting events and comedy clubs are great places to start.
  • Think simple. A first date that’s complicated or multi-part leaves room for too many things to go wrong!
  • Get back to your younger roots. Activities like rollerskating, iceskating, go-karting, bowling and miniature golf are fun and help to break the ice.
  • Check out these 10 great first date ideas.

Look (and smell) great

This one might seem obvious, but you’d be surprised at what some people forget to do.

  • Be neatly groomed. Brush your hair and teeth, trim your beard… you know the drill!
  • Wear deodorant. Trust me, I’d love to not have to include this tip.
  • Don’t overdo the perfume or cologne. You don’t want to overwhelm your date. And keep in mind: Some people have allergies to certain sprays.
  • Dress appropriately for the date — and beyond the first one! If you’re going to a baseball game, don’t dress formally — jeans are your friend. It goes both ways, so make sure you don’t overdress or underdress. You might want to show off, but you’ll end up looking like a fool.
  • Dressing sexy doesn’t always mean dressing seductively.

Getting physical

There really is no right or wrong here, but keep a few things in mind:

  • Stick to your principles.
  • A kiss at the end of your first date is appropriate as long as it feels right.
  • If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, no sex on the first date. This complicates things, seriously — respect yourself and you’ll be respected. Ideally, no sex until monogamy so you can build a real relationship.
  • If you’re looking for casual sex, then you know when it’s right. Be safe!

Leave history in the past

  • No ex talk. Your date doesn’t want to picture you with someone else. This tip definitely goes beyond the first date.
  • Keep the baggage to yourself and the skeletons in your closet.

Don’t drink too much

  • You need your wits, so keep them about you.
  • A drunk, slurring date isn’t hot.
  • A two-drink maximum is a good goal. It’ll take the edge off, but you’ll still be able to keep focus.

Be honest and positive

  • Be real!
  • At the end of the date, don’t say you’ll call if you’re not going to.
  • Everyone likes to know where they stand, so if you had a great time — say so!

[Image via Natalie Dee]

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  • http://twitter.com/TeamLAFT [email protected] Team

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