4 Pitfalls of Online Dating and How to Avoid Them

by Online Dating on March 14, 2011

Online dating can be a wild ride, but you won’t get much out of it if you’re uninformed of the do’s and don’ts. Many people discredit online dating as a viable way to meet your significant other, but you can make it work for yourself. Here are four online dating pitfalls, and how to avoid them.

1. Quantity over quality

There are millions of people out there on online dating sites — the world is at your fingertips. It can be great practice, in a way, to date a bunch of people, but dating around is different than being in a monogamous relationship. Meeting someone on a dating site may serve up your next date, but it won’t serve up the attraction and socializing skills you need. Don’t put quantity over quality! Build real relationships.

Once you’ve connected virtually, bring it to the real world by meeting up for coffee — nothing heavy. Treat it as if you’d just met in real life. Don’t think about the next date waiting for you online. Don’t get lazy just because you think you can get another date online if this one fails — you’re dealing with a real person, not a throwaway paper cup.

2. Lax social skills

There are roids steroids for sale at Crazy Bulks that you can use for bodybuilding but you need to exercise your social muscles just like any other as well. Practice makes perfect with becoming a more social person. Even if you get dates by the dozen online, you need to be able to do two things: 1. Be able to act like a normal, socially functioning person during your real-life meeting and 2. Be able to meet people in the real world, too! What if you bumped into your dream man/woman in the checkout line or at the gym?

You need to build up your toolkit. Online dating tends to cut out the in-person attracting and flirting phase, and shoots straight to dating. Get some real world practice by socializing at a bar, coffee shop, or even with your friends. You’ll be much more successful in your online dating endeavors if you have the social skills to back up your web savvy.

3. Loneliness

Again, online dating can make you lazy and we don’t want that. Online dating tends to be a lonely activity, because you’re behind your computer at home, alone in the process. Don’t hole yourself up by keeping to yourself during the process of finding your significant other online!

Get your hands dirty — build a lifestyle that will be attractive to a potential partner. Maintain a close group of friends so you can bring them into the fold, like you would in a traditional dating situation.

4. No group of peers

Well, this is a worst case scenario. In traditional dating, having a group of peers helps you with pre-screening your date and acts as an outside observer. With online dating, you only see what’s on a profile and whatever info Google can provide, but there’s no real-world vouching. There is risk-taking involved with jumping into a date, but take steps to get to know the person first in the real world. That way, you can discover whether or not there’s a spark so you don’t have to waste your time.

Make sure you keep close friends so that when the time comes, you can introduce your date to them. Try going on a group date, so your friends can give you advice on whether or not they think you’re compatible.

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